Music Monday

For The Love Of Nicki Minaj

In anticipation of #PinkFriday2 dropping this Friday the 8th of Decemeber, I’ve decided to write about my favorite rapper: Nicki Minaj.

Boy oh boy, where do I even begin with this one?  First let me start off by saying that my adoration of Nicki Minaj wasn’t something that happened immediately.  It was something that I grew into over time.  I’m so ashamed to say that when the original “Pink Friday” came out, I definitely slept on it.  My best friend and roommate Renee told me that it was a very good album and that I should definitely give it a listen.

I wish I’d listened to Renee sooner.  It wasn’t until after college when I moved to New York City that I began to really get into her music.  I can’t say that I found it as much as it found me.  Sometimes things unfold in their own time and you really can’t rush God’s timing.

My friend and fellow writer Lester stayed at the top floor of a Bushwick loft that was absolutely incredible.  In New York City, space is hard to come by.  And every Friday when I was done with my internship, I’d catch the L train out to Bushwick and me and Lester would smoke blunt after blunt while listening to music.  This was my introduction to Nicki Minaj.

“Nicki is my favorite rapper,” Lester would declare definitively while pushing an inhuman amount of smoke out of his lungs.  I distinctly remember him playing “Did It On ‘Em” and my stoned brain went absolutely bananas.  “WHAT IS THIS MUSIC???” I thought to myself as I’d feel the sound reverberating somewhere between my head, heart, and soul.

This was when my love affair began.  I’d sit on the subway and listen to Nicki’s music while reading along to the lyrics.  “Oh wow this woman is SMART,” I’d think to myself as the double and sometimes triple entendre would fly out her mouth with elegance and ease.  This was the best part of the early listening experience: Nicki’s music is for intelligent listeners of hip-hop.  An absolute aural pleasure.  The pop culture references were next to none and outstandingly hilarious.

I’m a creative writing minor so looking at poetry and picking it apart is one of my favorite things to do in class.  Let’s just say that Nicki’s songs leave a lot of meat on the bone for you to pick apart.  There are metaphors, coded language, the sort of things you’d only pick up on if you’re really paying attention.  This is what I love so much about Nicki’s work: it always has been — and always will be — intelligent.

This is just the music, it doesn’t even begin to cover the ground she broke for women in hip-hop culturally speaking.  Thin waif bodies were all the rage. Thinness for the longest time was the only body type that could be considered attractive.  Nicki came through with her Venusian goddess body, bursting onto the scene and thus made every girl want a fat booty!  Not only did she come into the game and change music, but she also changed the standards of beauty.

I remember waiting until midnight to watch the “Anaconda” music video.  It was such a statement of raw female sexuality!  Men can use their force to get what they want, why can’t a woman use her sexuality?  What’s wrong with using your feminine body to get what you want?  Nothing.  The only people that hate this are people who probably can’t do it themselves.

“The Pinkprint” is a very special album to me because it marked the first time I was officially a “Barb,” a moniker Nicki uses for her fans.  This album helped me get through some really difficult times in my life.  I remember crying like a baby when I heard “All Things Go” for the first time.  That song is raw, vulnerable, and so incredibly special to me, I just knew the rest of the album was going to be beautiful.  And that it was!

This album is special because it brought me and my little sister Hinemoa closer together.  We had a fraught relationship. Oftentimes my parents would compare us in really unfair and degrading ways.  This obviously could not have been easy for my little sister.  As her big brother, I left pretty hefty shoes for her to fill.  And not only this but we went to the same High School where I just know the teachers would’ve constantly been comparing us.  Let’s just say this: much like Nicki I definitely know how to leave my mark wherever I go!  Which is mostly a blessing but sometimes a curse.

Me and my little sister are two different people.  I was constantly encouraging lil sis to find her own voice and to forge her own path.  I told her that she didn’t have to do the swimming thing if it wasn’t her passion.  It didn’t matter to me what she did so long as she did it with passion!  It didn’t even have to be a sport, it could be music, or acting, or drawing.  Whatever!  I just wanted her to feel good about herself and to forge her own path separate from my own.

Of course when you’re a hormonal and moody teenager, it’s difficult to see this perspective.  It’s much easier to resent.  So of course this was how our relationship became incredibly frosty and fraught for a while.

When Nicki dropped “The Pinkprint,” it changed our familial dynamic. I’d drive lil sis around Auckland City with “The Pinkprint” playing from start to finish and we’d rap along to every lyric together. We’d roam the streets discussing and dissecting songs, stating which lyrics were our favorite.  We truly bonded and healed our relationship through Nicki’s music. There’s layers to the love I have for this artist.

“Four Door Aventador” was my personal favorite.  I also enjoyed “Favorite,” which is about wanting to be a person’s number one despite them being plenty of others.  Oop!  Art imitating life, let me tell you. 

Lil sis’ favorite track was “The Night Is Still Young” and “Trini-Dem-Girls.”  Our icy relationship defrosted and ever since then we have been incredibly close. Sharing a special bond over Nicki’s music.

Even in the subsequent time when I moved back to America, whenever a Nicki track or feature dropped, I’d call up lil sis and ask if she’d listened to it. We’d pick up right where we left off and talk about our favorite lyrics and best moments of the newly dropped song.

The “Queen” album roll-out was difficult to watch. Much in the same way that others would compare me and my little sister, our favorite rapper would find herself in a similar position: having others compare her talent to those that weren’t necessarily doing the same thing. Hello irony! 

Nicki is a poet, lyricist, mogul, and you’d be really foolish to try and stamp out her flame.  Nicki will be done with music when she’s done with music, not because these cornballs in the music industry have decided her time is up, but when she has decided it is time for her to be done.  She’s a little bit like Cameron Diaz in this respect.  I’ve always adored Cameron Diaz when she stood up for Nicki on a red carpet for a movie they did together.

The similarity of their positions in the music and entertainment industry is this: they’ll retire when they decide they’re done.  This is incredibly unusual in a place like Hollywood, especially for women.  Most musicians and actresses stop working because they stop getting deals and offers.  Oftentimes they retire because they don’t have a choice.  Nicki and Cameron are an anomaly to this: they’ll decide when they’re done and it isn’t up for other people to decide when their careers are over.

This is so powerful.  Especially in an industry as misogynistic as Hollywood.  And this is what “Queen” proved to us:  Nicki is with us until she says she’s not.  And wow, what an honor and a privilege for us to have lived through the Nicki Minaj era of music.  All the 1800 words I’ve written here haven’t even taken into account the fight she waged for streaming numbers to count towards Billboard, which shifted the entire music industry BTW.

There is so much more to unpack, write, and to say but there isn’t nearly enough time.  The music industry understands how impactful this woman is but like most Sagittarius, they never want to give us flowers because we’re cocky af. Honestly, when you live and walk in your truth, why aren’t you allowed to revel in it? Oh well! At least we like ourselves. Can’t say the same for the haters!

They’ll always downplay Nicki’s cultural impact and try to find ways to diminish her success but the proof is in the pudding:  Nicki Minaj runs the music industry.  Everything she creates and puts her name next to sells out quickly.  Just look at the Pink Friday 2 perfume that sold out all over America.  The December issue of Vogue for which she graces the cover (FINALLY!!!!) is difficult to find and at one point was selling for $100 a copy on Amazon. 

Nicki’s a marketing expert and an entertainment powerhouse!  We might never get to experience this type of genius ever again.

So, as you can imagine, I’m incredibly excited for the release of “Pink Friday 2” coming out this Friday, December 8th, which again you can pre-save here.  I can’t wait to sit with lil sis and discuss which songs are our favorite and what lyrics make us giggle, and just soak up the gorgeousness that is the Nicki Minaj vibe!

If it is anything like her career has been so far, “Pink Friday 2” is going to be EPIC.

Monday Music: For The Love of Alanis Morissette

Photo Credit: Youtube

Photo Credit: Youtube

Last week we wrote of one Gemini twin, it would only seem fitting to write about another for balance : Alanis Morissette.

I remember being 5 years old and my parents asking me what I wanted for Christmas or my Birthday, they fall within 11 days of each-other. I’m almost certain it was my birthday. Anyway, her 3rd album effort Jagged Little Pill was taking the music world by storm.

My earliest memory of Lilith energy was probably Alanis Morissette now that I think about it. I remember watching the You Oughta Know music video on the Coca Cola Top 20 countdown on Sunday morning. It was rare for me not to be at Sunday School at church but for whatever reason I had missed it.

I remember the carrying of the guitar. The desert. The long-haired majestic brunette screaming down the microphone. When you’re a child at that age, you don’t understand lyrics of songs or what they mean. You’re 100% living off the energy from the strings, drums, and vocals.

When reading the lyrics to You Oughta Know these days I giggle because the song is SO inappropriate for a 5 year old to be listening to! And of course the “Parental Advisory” sticker on the front was totally the reason why my parents didn’t end up buying me the album for the 6th birthday. Probably a choice for the better in retrospect. I don’t think my Dad would’ve actually cared. They brought me Grand Theft Auto: Miami Vice the video game at 14, and we always went to the video shop with my Dad because he never cared what titles we chose or the restricted titles. I’m inclined to say it was more my Mother than my Father whom was bothered by the mature label sticker on the album front cover.

What’s funny is that I remember my mum seriously contemplating buying the album for Christmas. I remember we were at St. Luke’s Mall doing Christmas shopping at the CD store behind the Wendy’s Ice-Cream shop on the bottom floor. In retrospect, I think my mum herself was curious about the album and music. I think she too was drawn to the Lilith energy of this music.

I remember her standing there looking at the front cover and I was pleading, nay, begging her to get it for me for Christmas! Had I been more socially savvy I would’ve said: “Get it for us for Christmas!” And then it could’ve been our cute little bonding moment. Instead her eyes couldn’t move past the “Parental Advisory” sticker on the front cover and she scrunched up her nose and said the soul-destroying word: “No.” Her Lilith in Virgo had beaten her North Node in Leo, perhaps for the better.

It’s okay though. We both fell in love with Alanis’ music when I became of age to hear it. Perhaps if NZ had been like the US and there were edited versions of the album readily available then it would’ve been fine. Unfortunately NZ’s music market is so small that they couldn’t justify the cost of buying the edited versions of albums. CDs in the 90’s could cost upwards of $35! This is such an interesting analysis of supply/demand economics and how music stores back then really had to toe-the-line in order to stay profitable. Buying one too many albums that didn’t sell could lose the store money.

Anyway, it is no secret that the past 9 months I have staged an internal revolution of sorts. I’ve had to kill so many parts of myself in order to allow other parts of myself to prosper. This is big Lilith energy. Death and destruction but also the rising out of ashes like a phoenix.

I’ve been reprogramming and rewiring my brain. I’ve thrown myself into sharpening my skill-set of self-discipline. I’m no longer delaying things, I’m trying to stay on top of them as soon as they come. I’m learning to lean into responsibility and finding ways to enjoy it rather than run away from it.

If I sleep in one day and don’t get into the gym, I’m okay with that. I don’t self-obsess over things and I keep it all cool. It’s okay if I couldn’t get all my workouts done this week. I don’t have to be so perfect all the time.

My therapist is constantly encouraging me to practice self-tenderness. I can be so tough on myself sometimes but it’s because I have high expectations. I try to live as sensibly as possible. I make choices to balance my endocrine system and keep my hormones in homeostasis. But if I want a slice of pizza because I have a food craving, I honor that in the moment because I know if I don’t, I’ll end up bingeing and eating an entire pie in an act of self-destruction and deep self-loathing (bad Lilith energy).

I don’t know how I stumbled across “Thank U” once again but I’m glad that I did. It was probably somehow connected to David Odyssey’s standom of her.

Context is important with this song. It is not from Jagged Little Pill, it is from the follow-up album Supposed Former Infatuation Junkie. The previous year Mz. Morissette had been traveling and touring the entire world and was suffering from extreme burnout, both physically and emotionally.

The subsequent eighteen months after her incredibly successful tour, Mz. Morissette took a lot of time to decompress and re-evaluate. After a whirlwind of success, achieving all the accolades one could musically at the age of 21, Alanis took a 6 week trip to India in December 1996 after her tour. She took her Mum, two aunts, and two friends along with her.

India is an incredibly special place. I was blessed enough to go when I was 20 for the Commonwealth Games. We went together as a family, visited the Taj Mahal in Agra (the City of Love), picked out a beautiful rug that we got shipped to New Zealand, and I made the final for the 50M Breaststroke!

It was a time of spiritual awakening within myself also. I was confronted with poverty. Real poverty. The type that made me start asking questions about myself and my place within the world. The mechanisms and wheel was starting to turn in my brain about how beautiful, fleeting, and special life is. And that sure, I was flunking a math class or whatever, my struggles paled in comparison to others and it really taught me to appreciate my life.

This is why “Thank U” is such a special song to me. This metamorphosis I’ve been going through shedding several skins is very real and it is not pretend. It is authentic and people are picking up on it. The seismic shift into the Age of Aquarius is conjunct with my North Node and Venus. It’s my time to shine baby! I haven’t even peaked yet. Just you watch!

I’ve absorbed all this pain and it’s transforming me into something better but the change has been exhausting. It has taken so much out of me. So much so that during the New Moon, I stayed in that weekend and slept the entire time. Part of me knew I have so much work to do but I knew it would be beneficial for me to slow down and recuperate. The past 6 months I would’ve just muscled through this feeling and got shit accomplished, but MercuryRX is a moment that teaches us to slow down for a minute.

I know this blog post is long, but I think this quote about the song sums up where I am in my life. During her VH1 Storytellers appearance, Mz. Morissette explained:

"I felt that I lived in a culture that told me that I had to consistently and constantly look outside myself to feel this elusive bliss. And I achieved a lot of what society had told me to achieve and I still didn't feel peaceful. I started questioning everything, and I realized that actually everything was an illusion and it was scary for me because everything I had believed in was dissolving in front of me and there was a death of sorts, a really beautiful one ultimately, but at first a very scary one, and so I stopped. I stopped for the first time and I was overcome with a huge sense of compassion for myself first, and then naturally that translated into my feeling and compassion for everyone around me and a huge amount of gratitude that I had never felt before to this extent. And that's why I had to write this song, 'Thank U,' because I had to express how exciting this was and how scary it was and all of these opportunities for us to define who we are."

The bridge is very special to me:
”The moment I let go of it, was the moment I got more that I could handle,
The moment I jumped off of it, was the moment I touched down”